Neal and I are newly engaged (hooray!) and are looking forward to spending the holidays together. Our families live in different places, which makes it tricky- we have to make a decision about who we'll spend Christmas with! If you're in a similar predicament, here are some pointers:
- Discuss your priorities together. If your man can't go without his mom's turkey and stuffing, then maybe it's best to spend Thanksgiving with his family and Christmas with yours.
- Talk to your parents. Here's a great tip: Ask you parents how they split the holidays when they were newly married/dating. Did they host? Take turns? Try to visit both families in one day? Their response might give you some insight into their mindset, but it's also a gentle reminder of the dilemma you're facing.
- Be flexible. What you choose to do this year doesn't have to be your only option for years to come. Perhaps you alternate Thanksgiving locations each year, or maybe one year YOU host! If your families live close to one another, try visiting both on one day, or extending the holiday to span multiple days.
Different circumstances will change the decisions you make. Perhaps your sister is in town with her new baby and this is the only opportunity you'll have to see them- make that a priority. Have an elderly grandparent? Spend time with them! The holidays are much more special when you can spend them with the ones you love and relax a bit, so keep that in mind as you make your plans.
We're excited to have both families in Austin this week to celebrate Thanksgiving! Let the fun begin...