Friday, February 20, 2015

Etiquette: Keeping in Touch

Illustration by Inslee Haynes, via Pinterest
As an adult, I've moved several times and have friends in many places. It's absolutely wonderful to have friends all around the country (and world, for that matter!), but keeping in touch does take effort. Don't let your friendships fizzle. Follow these three simple tips for keeping up with your favorites:

Keep it Casual
Texting is a great way to casually include your far-away friends (and those close by) in your day-to-day activities. There's no need to go overboard, but try to send small notes on a regular basis. For example: "I was just thinking of you- I had the most amazing hummingbird cupcake at Magnolia Bakery. It was good, but not as good as yours!" It lets your friend know that you're having fun, thinking of her, and remember some important details about her (she makes amazing cupcakes!). 

Use the Phone
As a rule of thumb, I try to call my far-away friends at least once a month. We aren't always able to connect, but other times we talk more frequently so it all works out. Phone conversations feel old-fashioned in the modern age of Instagram and Facebook, but there's really no substitute for hearing your friend's voice. 

Acknowledge Special Occasions
If you've read my blog before, you know that I LOVE snail mail.  Keep a calendar of your friends' special events and send a cute card or a hand-written note. Birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, new babies- they're all worth acknowledging! 

Visit!
This might not be an annual thing, depending on distance and schedules, but make a concerted effort to get together! Regular phone chats are a step in the right direction, but there's no substitute for face-to-face friend visits. Want to get the most bang for your buck? Gather a group for a fun vacation, or throw a party next time you're home for the holidays. There's no shame in wanting to see ALL of your friends at once. 

If you've let a friendship fade, it's not too late. True friends won't hold a grudge, so get in touch and start catching up!

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